Should you “learn to love yourself first”?

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There are variations of this advice such as “No one can love you if you don’t love yourself”, or “You can’t love others if you don’t love you” but for those who find self-love tricky it can become another reason to just walk away from connection.

So how useful is this advice? What do people mean by it and what can you say to someone instead?