Polyamory, (sometimes also called ethical non monogamy) is growing. With many people actively choosing to form romantic partnerships with more than one person at a time or being part of open relationships, there are many more profiles on dating apps declaring non monogamous intentions. But as someone who may not…

Most people we meet are passing through. They’re the person we chat to on the bus or the work colleague we sat next to for two years but never really clicked with. It’s the person we meet every week on a night out but never find out anything personal about. …

For me part of the appeal of polyamory is the infinite possibilities of emotional connection. There’s no one love, no one person I pour my heart out to and rely on. I have many loves and many ears. In the same way I enjoy the feeling of being there for…

Are they flirting with you? If you’re wondering this, the answer is often yes. But the real question should be *why* are they flirting with you? There are hundreds of articles which will tell you how to look for signs of sexual attraction in someone. Not everyone is an expert…

This morning I received a message from a guy on a dating app. The kind I received is common but today it made me think. He said (and I paraphrase) “I don’t want a traditional relationship because I feel trapped in them, but I don’t just want one-night stands…

Polyamory seems to be having a boom time with lots of people realising there are other relationship structures than ‘fall in love and stay monogamous forever’. I took the brave step to ethical non monogamy just over a year ago, here are a few things I wish someone had told…

The friend zone is not a thing. We know this. No one owes you their sexual attention for any reason whatsoever. And yet having a crush can be such an all-encompassing feeling fuelled with expectation it creates a sense of longing which can become selfish and entitled. No one means…

Whenever anyone asks me to describe polyamory, I struggle to find a suitable website to direct them to. Explaining my beliefs and how I like to manage my relationship models is something I sometimes find hard to put into words without a little contemplation. So here it is. The word…

Are you GGG (Good, game, and giving?) It’s something Dan Savage talks about a fair bit as being an important quality within partners. I’ve met a lot of people who’ve professed to be these things, but they haven’t really worked out so well for me. Good, game, and giving is…