Jul 24, 2021Should you “learn to love yourself first”?There are variations of this advice such as “No one can love you if you don’t love yourself”, or “You can’t love others if you don’t love you” but for those who find self-love tricky it can become another reason to just walk away from connection. So how useful is…Love And Sex5 min readLove And Sex5 min read
Jul 22, 2021So you want to date a polyamorous person, but are new to non-monogamy?Polyamory, (sometimes also called ethical non monogamy) is growing. With many people actively choosing to form romantic partnerships with more than one person at a time or being part of open relationships, there are many more profiles on dating apps declaring non monogamous intentions. But as someone who may not…Relationships6 min readRelationships6 min read
Dec 22, 2020Do you spark joy? Six steps to connectionMost people we meet are passing through. They’re the person we chat to on the bus or the work colleague we sat next to for two years but never really clicked with. It’s the person we meet every week on a night out but never find out anything personal about. …Relationships5 min readRelationships5 min read
Dec 12, 2020One Love — How Many People Do You Rely On For Emotional Intimacy?For me part of the appeal of polyamory is the infinite possibilities of emotional connection. There’s no one love, no one person I pour my heart out to and rely on. I have many loves and many ears. In the same way I enjoy the feeling of being there for…Polyamory5 min readPolyamory5 min read
Oct 29, 2020Are they flirting with you?Are they flirting with you? If you’re wondering this, the answer is often yes. But the real question should be *why* are they flirting with you? There are hundreds of articles which will tell you how to look for signs of sexual attraction in someone. …Relationships3 min readRelationships3 min read
Oct 10, 2020It’s Not You, It’s ThemThis morning I received a message from a guy on a dating app. The kind I received is common but today it made me think. He said (and I paraphrase) “I don’t want a traditional relationship because I feel trapped in them, but I don’t just want one-night stands…Dating Advice4 min readDating Advice4 min read
Oct 6, 2020Newly polyamorous? Female? Here’s what I wish I knew a year agoPolyamory seems to be having a boom time with lots of people realising there are other relationship structures than ‘fall in love and stay monogamous forever’. …Polyamory8 min readPolyamory8 min read
Oct 2, 2020Before you confess to your crush, think about this!The friend zone is not a thing. We know this. No one owes you their sexual attention for any reason whatsoever. And yet having a crush can be such an all-encompassing feeling fuelled with expectation it creates a sense of longing which can become selfish and entitled. No one means…Relationships5 min readRelationships5 min read
Sep 30, 2020What polyamory means to meWhenever anyone asks me to describe polyamory, I struggle to find a suitable website to direct them to. Explaining my beliefs and how I like to manage my relationship models is something I sometimes find hard to put into words without a little contemplation. So here it is. The word…Polyamory7 min readPolyamory7 min read
Sep 28, 2020Good, Game, and Giving? Keep it. I want Respectful, Reliable, and Regularly in contact.Are you GGG (Good, game, and giving?) It’s something Dan Savage talks about a fair bit as being an important quality within partners. I’ve met a lot of people who’ve professed to be these things, but they haven’t really worked out so well for me. Good, game, and giving is…Dating4 min readDating4 min read
